We’ve all heard the modesty talk so many times, we could recite it in our sleep. And most of us already dress modestly, so it feels like they’re preaching to the choir. But this time it’s not about the clothes—modesty extends beyond fashion to all aspects of your life.
- Conversation: What we talk about with our friends and significant others is just as important as what we wear. If you have nonmember friends who like to share their sexual conquests, tell them that’s private information you aren’t interested in. When on dates, don’t talk about sexual activities. Men, avoid crude humor and let your friends know it’s not funny to you—sex is an intimate topic.
- Photos: We all have social media accounts through which we share our everyday lives, vacations, and fun times with the rest of the world. We need to be careful, though, of what photos we take and post of ourselves. When unsure, just ask yourself, “Would I be embarrassed if my bishop saw this picture?”
- Texts: The rules of conversation and photos also apply to texting, since they are in essence the same. No sexting!
- Dancing: Who doesn’t love to get down on the dance floor to a good beat? Dancing is a form of fun and self-expression, so make sure you expressing yourself appropriately. Grinding and freak dancing are not types of dancing we should participate in, and even if we are far apart from our partner, we need not shake, shake, shake our booty suggestively.
- Flirting: Go ahead and put on your charm when an attractive person is around. Just remember that all the rules of modesty—clothing, words, and body language—are important in making a good first impression of yourself and attracting the right person.
Remember, modesty is not just a wardrobe, but also a lifestyle. By being modest in our lifestyle as well as in our fashion, we allow ourselves to have an exciting yet regretless dating life that will result in an eternal marriage in the house of the Lord.
Challenge: When faced with immodest temptations, remember this worthy goal.