Elder Neil L. Andersen shared this example in his October 2011 general conference talk:
President J. Scott Dorius of the Peru Lima West Mission told me their story. He said:
“Becky and I were married for 25 years without being able to have [or adopt] children. We moved several times. Introducing ourselves in each new setting was awkward and sometimes painful. Ward members wondered why we [didn’t have] children. They weren’t the only ones wondering.
“When I was called as a bishop, ward members [expressed] concern that I did not have any experience with children and teenagers. I thanked them for their sustaining vote and asked them to allow me to practice my child-raising skills on their children. They lovingly obliged.
“We waited, gained perspective, and learned patience. After 25 years of marriage, a miracle baby came into our lives. We adopted two-year-old Nicole and then newborn Nikolai. Strangers now compliment us on our beautiful grandchildren. We laugh and say, ‘They are our children. We have lived our lives backwards.’”
Whatever happened to minding our own business? We may feel that our questions are just out of curiosity, concern, or compassion, not judgment, but the motivation doesn't matter. Unless we are family or friends who the person chooses to talk to about his or her personal life, unless we have received a distinct prompting from the Spirit to address a sensitive subject with the person, unless this person is doing something clearly harmful to him- or herself or others, then their business is not ours.Brothers and sisters, we should not be judgmental with one another in this sacred and private responsibility. [emphasis mine]
Let us first worry about our own salvation before we "help" others with theirs. Let us put down the gavel and stop doing the Savior's job. He is the Judge; we are not. He knows the full story, He sees the complete picture; we do not. The best things we can do are pray for and love the person.
Challenge: Next time a judgmental thought or comment pops into your mind, dismiss it. Remember, our divine identity supersedes all others, so let us think of and treat each other as the beloved children of God we are. Then we will be able to get to a place where we don't even have judgmental thoughts to dismiss.